Removing people

“Sometimes you get the best light from a burning bridge.”

Why you should remove more people out of your life.
Now don’t get me wrong, Depression is lonely and i’m not suggesting you delete all your social media accounts, move to the middle of nowhere and live as a hobbit. I mean the hundreds of Facebook friends you have, Instagram followers and people you only follow because you feel like you have to. The saying really is true, quality over quantity. Especially if you are a teenager with depression, it is vital to surround yourself with people you feel comfortable around and true friends that would be there for you when you need them. Why you ask? one word. Drama.


If you are ever in a position where you are suffering or not feeling your best you want to feel surrounded by supportive, real people you can talk to. You should never feel as though you have to change yourself or alter who you are to feel accepted by people who quite bluntly, don’t know anything about you or care about you. So ask yourself, why do we do it? Because everybody else does.
Being mates with hundreds of people ultimately ends badly and take my word for it, you don’t want to be battling your own demons, and then go out and have to have a face to face argument with some girl you hardly know because you looked at her wrong. It is un necessary and let’s be honest, teenagers can be immature, and you really don’t want to run that risk.


So how do you go about it?

Think of it as a detox for your social circle. You slowly remove the bad toxins (that didn’t sound as harsh in my head) and you will feel healthier, more alive, even happier. Just begin with the people you never talk to, declutter your friends list. You don’t need them, and they don’t deserve to see every single post about you, or your cousin’s wedding photos you were tagged in. Do they deserve to know your life? More times than not, the answer is no. The people in your life when you have a mental illness should be a source of reducing stress, not causing more of it. Then get to the people who you feel as though you have to follow, that cool guy from college that you really hate, that boys ex to see how she’s doing. Instead focus on yourself, hang out with your real friends in person, Eh, while you’re at it maybe even spend time with the people you live with? Family even? It’s amazing how connected you can feel by disconnecting with many. Eliminate what doesn’t help you evolve.


The bigger picture.

Step back and re-evaluate your life, who is important to you and who isn’t. A major step of recovery is priorities. Prioritize yourself and your health and boom, there’s one weight lifted off of your shoulders. You don’t have time for petty people, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations. At first you may feel worried people may think badly of you, but as time goes on you begin to develop more self-respect, more boundaries, and when you welcome new friendships into your life, they will be the kind of people who you made a conscious choice to go hey, your pretty cool, I actually like you as a person. You will spend no time running around after people and begging for their affection. Instead you will have people who listen to you and make you smile, and are friends with you because of who you are, not who you were pretending to be.


Focus on your own business, not everyone else’s.